Friendship: This is Why We Fight
We’ll be the first ones to say that, although we’ve always loved and cherished our friendships, there was no deeper meaning or mission attached to them. Our friends were women with whom we laughed, vented, and joined together in silly and fun adventures. They were the cherries on top of life, our bonus “happy” when time and circumstances allowed.
Then something happened that changed us both: God introduced us.
As the years went by, we could tell something was happening between us that was a little out of the ordinary, and even though it took a decade, the outlines of a much bigger picture began to take shape!
Now we see a little more clearly how God is doing a new thing across the earth regarding Friendship.
For starters, He is supernaturally connecting women who would not normally be drawn to each other through common similarities or interests; whose phases of life, personalities, giftings, and interests don’t make much sense by earthly standards, but by Heaven’s they make complete sense!
These partnerships are absolutely necessary because God has assignments to release that are too weighty, important, and crushing if not for two, pulling together as one. And He knows just the duos who can get them done!
Why not Friendship?!
God used Friendship in His own Son’s bloodline to establish His throne on earth forever (2 Samuel 7:13; Psalm 89:4) by forming a covenant between Jonathan, the earthly heir to his father’s throne, and David, God’s anointed heir to the throne, from whom Jesus would descend.
This infamously close-knit relationship between David and Jonathan seems one we hold sentimental value for as a good childhood story from the Bible, but unfortunately not one we set as a normal standard in our lives.
However, if we could grasp that what God did through one friendship, He can do through thousands more, we would desperately pray that this type of relationship come crashing through the walls of our lives, carrying us into something more extraordinary than we have been taught to expect or hope for, as descendants of a royal lineage.
“As soon as he [David] had finished speaking to Saul, the soul of Jonathan was knit to the soul of David, and Jonathan loved him as his own soul.” 1 Samuel 18:1
Between these two men, the Bible portrays the deepest kind of love—one of sacrifice, calling, covenant, protection, adventure, and likeness. It was an immediate connection. One that in no way could have been formed if not for God.
Have you ever felt a connection so deep as this in your own life?
“Then Jonathan made a covenant with David because he loved him as himself. And Jonathan removed the robe he was wearing and gave it to David, along with his tunic, his sword, his bow, and his belt.” 1 Samuel 18:3-4
What an incredible display of emotion and affection as Jonathan handed over his armor, which not only was a sign of his identity as son to the king, but that of protection against a valiant warrior who could just as easily become his foe.
Yet, we can only surmise that Jonathan knew his place in history was not to inherit the throne, but to give it to a man who had no earthly legal standing, apart from the anointing of heaven. And he was given the unique privilege of partnering with God and David to see that anointing explode in a Kingdom invasion on earth that would bring forth a Savior and King.
Handling the Weighty Assignments: No Room For Competition
David was anointed to be king. Jonathan would give up his place to let him. Each had their assignment that could not be completed without the other, yet one probably looked a bit more glamorous than the other! I don’t know about you, but I’d rather be given a crown than a demotion!
As we begin to step deeper into the calling of Friendship, we must understand that even though each of us wears evenly the yoke of the common mission for which we have been called, it may not always look like each of us is getting the same fair shake, the same recognition, or the same accolades. In fact, you can bet that it won’t work that way at all.
The point of covenant is to be yoked together as ambassadors for the Kingdom of God so that heaven invades earth and Jesus’ name is glorified. One common mission. One sole purpose.
If there’s one thing that can destroy the mission, it will be matters of competition and comparison. And that just won’t do, because God is partnering us with each other—not against each other—to accomplish together what we could never do alone, for Him.
He is placing on us holy yokes, to pull holy carts carrying holy assignments. The fuels we’ve been running on of comparison, rank, grudges, and lack won’t power these engines anymore.
As we take this journey together, this issue needs to be settled as quickly and sacrificially as Jonathan disrobed his own defenses: the glory is in the yoke of the mission, and its strength is in the shoulder-to-shoulder cooperation.
You are a team for the sake of representing His kingdom on earth—a brilliant display of power and love where He delights in showing His face.
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