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THE ART OF FRIENDSHIP NEGOTIATION

Updated: Dec 2, 2020

Flaw: MY Way of Friendship

Law: OUR Way of Friendship


Have you ever thought about the need for negotiation in ๐…๐‘๐ˆ๐„๐๐ƒ๐’๐‡๐ˆ๐?



When two parties come to the table to negotiate, they give and take until they reach a conclusion that both of them find acceptable. I've always thought about negotiation in terms of a business deal, a marriage or ๐š ๐ญ๐จ๐๐๐ฅ๐ž๐ซ ๐ฐ๐ก๐จ ๐ฆ๐ข๐ ๐ก๐ญ ๐ง๐ž๐ž๐ ๐š ๐œ๐จ๐จ๐ค๐ข๐ž ๐ญ๐จ ๐ ๐ž๐ญ ๐ข๐ง๐ญ๐จ ๐ญ๐ก๐ž ๐›๐š๐ญ๐ก๐ญ๐ฎ๐›, but it never occurred to me in terms of friendship until recently.


If you've followed our story at all, you know that Tabatha and I spent 16 months apart after a close 8-year friendship that blew out and up (and finally over, thank God!). The coming back together has been really good and sweet and all the nice things, ๐›๐ฎ๐ญ ๐ฐ๐ž'๐ซ๐ž ๐š๐ฅ๐ฌ๐จ ๐ง๐จ๐ญ๐ข๐œ๐ข๐ง๐  ๐ญ๐ก๐ž ๐ง๐ž๐ž๐ ๐ญ๐จ ๐ซ๐ž๐๐ž๐Ÿ๐ข๐ง๐ž ๐ฐ๐ก๐จ ๐ฐ๐ž ๐š๐ซ๐ž ๐ญ๐จ๐ ๐ž๐ญ๐ก๐ž๐ซ, since a lot of who we were previously didn't work for both of us at different times.ย 


Negotiation is an art, and although we're certainly not experts in hostage situations or company takeovers (yet), weย have noticed a few everyday things that are helpful with two friends who love each other and want to be what the other one needs without compromising our whole selves to give it. ๐€๐Ÿ๐ญ๐ž๐ซ ๐š๐ฅ๐ฅ, ๐ข๐Ÿ ๐ฌ๐ก๐ž ๐ก๐š๐ฌ ๐ญ๐จ ๐ฅ๐จ๐ฌ๐ž ๐ก๐ž๐ซ๐ฌ๐ž๐ฅ๐Ÿ ๐ญ๐จ ๐ฆ๐ž ๐š๐ง๐ ๐ฆ๐ž ๐ญ๐จ ๐ก๐ž๐ซ, ๐ญ๐ก๐š๐ญ'๐ฌ ๐ง๐จ๐ญ ๐š ๐Ÿ๐ซ๐ข๐ž๐ง๐๐ฌ๐ก๐ข๐ฉ ๐ฐ๐ž ๐ฐ๐จ๐ฎ๐ฅ๐ ๐ž๐ฏ๐ž๐ซ ๐ฐ๐š๐ง๐ญ ๐Ÿ๐จ๐ซ ๐จ๐ง๐ž ๐š๐ง๐จ๐ญ๐ก๐ž๐ซ. It took us only eight years and sixteen months to figure that one out.


So, this week on the podcast, we'll hit some points of negotiation that will help close friends determine what's fair for both sides if things have become a little lop-sided. Especially if you've been friends for a while, these things are simply good to discuss for maintenance sake because ๐ฉ๐ž๐จ๐ฉ๐ฅ๐ž ๐œ๐ก๐š๐ง๐ ๐ž ๐š๐ง๐ ๐ญ๐ก๐ž ๐š๐ข๐ซ ๐ ๐ž๐ญ๐ฌ ๐ญ๐ก๐ข๐œ๐ค ๐จ๐ฏ๐ž๐ซ ๐ญ๐ข๐ฆ๐ž. If we can help you clear the air and avoid a blow-up, then our eight-years-and-sixteen-months will have been worth it!


Here are a few questions to ask each other if you want to get the ball rolling. ๐“๐ก๐ž๐ฌ๐ž ๐š๐ซ๐ž๐ง'๐ญ ๐ž๐ฑ๐š๐œ๐ญ๐ฅ๐ฒ ๐œ๐จ๐ฆ๐Ÿ๐จ๐ซ๐ญ๐š๐›๐ฅ๐ž, ๐›๐ฎ๐ญ ๐ข๐ญ ๐ฌ๐ฎ๐ซ๐ž ๐›๐ž๐š๐ญ๐ฌ ๐ญ๐ก๐ž ๐š๐ฅ๐ญ๐ž๐ซ๐ง๐š๐ญ๐ข๐ฏ๐ž ๐จ๐Ÿ ๐ง๐จ๐ญ ๐ก๐š๐ฏ๐ข๐ง๐  ๐ก๐ž๐ซ ๐š๐ซ๐จ๐ฎ๐ง๐ ๐š๐ง๐ฒ๐ฆ๐จ๐ซ๐ž!

Honestly, pick just one question over a cup of coffee and Iโ€™ll bet you could fill up two hours and a couple of refills!


๐–๐žโ€™๐ฅ๐ฅ ๐๐ข๐ฏ๐ž ๐๐ž๐ž๐ฉ๐ž๐ซ ๐จ๐ง ๐ญ๐ก๐ž ๐…๐ซ๐ข๐๐š๐ฒ ๐ฉ๐จ๐๐œ๐š๐ฌ๐ญ with some straight-talking, realistic ways that you can negotiate your relationship while keeping your connection, which is always the goal of tough conversations. Itโ€™s not always easy but definitely worth it!


Catch Up Here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-flaws-of-friendship/id1531553137



๐š๐šŽ๐šŒ๐š’๐š™๐šŽ ๐š˜๐š ๐š๐š‘๐šŽ ๐š†๐šŽ๐šŽ๐š”:



๐™ฟ๐š›๐šŠ๐šข๐šŽ๐š› ๐š˜๐š ๐š๐š‘๐šŽ ๐š†๐šŽ๐šŽ๐š”:


๐‹๐จ๐ซ๐ ๐ฐ๐ž ๐ฉ๐ซ๐š๐ฒ for the Art of Negotiation to sweep over every single person that is in our ๐…๐ซ๐ข๐ž๐ง๐๐ฌ๐ก๐ข๐ฉ ๐‚๐ข๐ซ๐œ๐ฅ๐ž. We pray that women WILL NOT LOSE but truly FIND themselves in the deep love and connection that comes in the form of humility and compromise. ๐€๐ฆ๐ž๐ง.


See you Friday!

๐’ฎ๐“‰๐’ถ๐’ธ๐‘’๐“Ž ๐‘€๐’ถ๐“‡๐’ธ๐’ฝ & ๐’ฏ๐’ถ๐’ท๐’ถ๐“‰๐’ฝ๐’ถ ๐ป๐’ถ๐’พ๐“ƒ๐‘’๐“ˆ


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๐Ÿ…ฒ๐Ÿ†† ๐Ÿ…ท๐Ÿ…ธ๐Ÿ…ฒ๐Ÿ…บ๐Ÿ†‚

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